What Are You Scared Of?

Personally, I am scared of heights, and spiders. Well more specifically bugs in general, especially if they jump.

Phobias aren't really the point of this blog though. Big Girls, I am going to ask you a question, and I really want you to think about the answer: What are you scared of?

Big Girls, being big ain't easy. Trust me, I'm a pro.
I see so many women who dress to be invisible. Just trying to blend into the background.

What are you scared of?

Someone might notice you? Some people might be offended because you have a little extra fluff? That people will laugh? That the hot guy on aisle 3 might ask for your number?

How you answer that question is very important.


I have noticed a lot of big girls (not Big Girl) lately that seem to have such an awful self image.

The whole thing with being a Big Girl, is the acceptance and knowledge of our bodies.

We know that we are bigger than some other people, but we accept ourselves and find beauty within that acceptance.

This is directly correlated with fashion. Big girls (not Big Girls) tend to dress to fade to the background. And I know that feeling. I struggled to accept myself for a very long time.

But acceptance breeds love for yourself. And when you love yourself, you want to look as good as you feel on the inside.

Fashion plays into this by being the first thing people see. If you don't feel beautiful on the inside, then you won't be able to show it on the outside.

Fashion represents your acceptance.

Take the time to get to know yourself. Accept yourself, and your body.

You only get one, so love it. Flaunt it. Be. Express your self.

You can show the world how amazing Big Girls are. And it isn't a hard thing to do.

Follow the basics. Be creative with it. But most importantly love yourself.

Don't drown yourself in too big clothes. Do find a fabulous fit. Don't feel like you aren't beautiful because you're not a size 2. Do embrace yourself, not matter what size you are.

Don't be scared because of your body. It is beautiful. You are beautiful.

*Try this tomorrow- Stand in front of a full length mirror, naked. And look at yourself. Think of positive thoughts of yourself. It doesn't matter if you have rolls. Or cellulite, or a big ass. Start loving yourself, and see the beautiful you.

I do that every single day. Yes, we are big, and damn it we are gorgeous. Start standing up for yourself, and your Big Girl sisters everywhere. Don't be scared anymore.



Be Fabulous,

Pauline
 
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Are you ready?

For Spring, that is. It's coming and no one is going to stop it! Plus, I've seen waaaayyy too much snow this year and I am welcoming the coming sunshine!

The real question is, is your closet ready for Spring?

If you don't know the basics to Big Girl fashion, check out our archives, with what to, and what not to wear.

Now, on to the wardrobe! Spring is one my favorite times of year, because it's still cool enough to wear pants, but if you want to go shorter you can! This goes goes for everything, not just pants.

In Spring we see a return of the dress without leggins or hose, we start seeing short sleeves, and maybe even a peek of the summer flipflops!

So during the winter I have done some major looking, and I have found so many places to find cute clothes for us Big Girls. And as Spring gets closer and closer every day, we all need to look into it.

I have put together some of my favorite outfits for this 2011 Spring season.

Make sure to check out all of the websites.

Tips for a great Spring wardrobe:
1. Use color. Spring is when all of the color comes back to nature from the drab of Winter. Use it in your clothes too.
2. Go for a shorter dress. Maxi dresses tend to drag on for days. Look for dress lengths that are either a few inches above the knee (not too short, you don't want to get arrested for indecent exposure!!), At the knee, or just below the knee. Mid calf length dresses work, but try sticking to the knees.
3. It's not summer yet, so you can still work your cardigans!
4. If you go for a print, make sure it fits your body. Not too big, not too small.

*And remember, you can do your own thing, this is just a template*

Here are a few things from the websites that I talked about earlier.



This website is amazing! It's my favorite site that I found. If they don't have your size, or want a better fit, you can send them your measurements and they will custom make any of their clothes for you!

They have some of everything, and they make dresses, shirts, jackets, and pants, all that go up to a size 26w that is in-stock and ready to be shipped out.

Eshakti










Chicstar has a lot of dresses, and most of them are retro 50's, but they are absolutely adorable. And they have some pretty cool accessories. Chicstar

You can plug in your size, what you're looking for, and even see if things are on sale at Alight! Alight

Plus Size Fix
Zaftique
Torrid
Size Appeal
Igigi

Those are just a few of the things that are out there to check out.

Don't forget in-store shopping too! Lane Bryant, Avenue, Torrid, Ashley Stewart, Target, Old Navy (they have up to a size 18 in-store and up to 30 online), Even department stores are carrying a selection of plus size clothes.

Warmer weather is on the way, take your closet on headfirst!

Be Fabulous, Big Girls!
-Pauline

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