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Thursday, November 25, 2010

Shape!

Happy Thanksgiving Big Girls (well at least for the Americans)! And happy Thursday for everyone else!
I know we have been slacking with the blogs lately, just bear with us, we're going to keep cranking them out, pinky promise.

On to today's topic: body shapers.

I know that we have all seen those infomercials for the Kymaro Body Shaper. The one that proclaims it makes you look 10-20 pounds slimmer. And we all contemplated picking up the phone right then.

A few weeks ago I was walking through the store and saw this product on the shelf. And for $30 bucks I decided to try it.
Now this wasn't the first body shaper that I have had. I've had one or two in the past, but they weren't like this one.

When I first slipped into this shaper, I was amazed. More than amazed. It slimmed me, it put things in the right place, it made my posture amazing, it hugged me, and to top it off it felt amazing on.

I expected it to be cheap and to not work at all. But I was pleasantly surprised.

Now, I am not shamelessly advertising this shaper, I wish I was because then they would pay me.
But, Big Girls, there are tons of shapers out there for us to try.

They have them at Lane Bryant, it's called Spanx. Avenue has them, called avenueBody. Catherine's has them too.
If you search online there are endless possibilities to find one that you like.
For example, you can go to barenecessities.com or herroom.com.

Ever tried a body shaper? Still a little confused about them?
I'll explain a bit more.

The function of a body shaper is to move your "extra" stuff around to give you more shape, and to smooth you out.
Most of them are made from spandex and/or other strechy polyester materials.
There are body shapers for just your upper half, and bottom half, and they can also come in a one piece to shape both your top and bottom.

They really do work very well. And they give you amazing shape. Even though we all do have shape already, shapers give your more definition and a totally smooth look. And nobody can argue with better posture.

Anda and I highly recommend investing in one. Wear it with your favorite outfit and see how much more fabulous you look!

We are always here for you at prtali@yahoo.com. We welcome all of your comments, or questions

Look lively Big Girls! The holiday season is here, don't forget to treat yourself!

Be fabulous, Pauline

Tuesday, November 9, 2010

What's In Your Wallet... er, Purse?

Do you carry a purse? I bet you do. Purses are great, they really are, and like Big Girls they come in all sorts of shapes and sizes and textures.
So, what kind of bag do you carry? Do you carry a clutch or a gigantic bag? What about one of those chic, across the chest numbers? Do you carry just the basics or are you, as my Dad likes to say, carrying everything but the kitchen sink in your purse?
I have three main bags: a glitzy little number that wears like a messenger bag, a hobo bag that slings low across my body, and an Andy Warhol money bag that can hold a full change of clothes/makeup bag/pair of sneakers/ two books.
As I write this, i'm using my hobo bag. It's pretty much the most practical purse I own (think suede with brassy tones and purple inside). Since I have to lug this bag around campus and up stairs and down stairs and everywhere in between, I try not to carry too much stuff that isn't necessary. I fail a lot with that reasoning, though, because my belief is that I never know what I may need on any given day. Ok, so what I'm trying to say is that I have a whole lot of crap in my bag.
So, what's in my bag?
1) My wallet. I know the whole fad is geared towards those slender wallets, but after breaking my third one (my purse isn’t the only thing I pack full of junk), I decided that I needed something a little more practical but it also couldn’t be reminiscent of my Nanny’s wallet. Simple solution: Poketo. Don’t know it? Look it up at www.poketo.com Poketo is a design studio founded by a husband and wife team, Ted Vadakan and Angie Myung (totally cute couple!) They showcase artists through everyday wares. I opted for multicolored check wallet because it holds so much stuff. And yeah, my wallet is full. We’ve got license, social security card, debit card, insurance car (both health and auto), two library print cards, student ID, an Office Depot card, Hot Topic card, Starbucks gift card, four receipts, and $9.81. Oh, and a check book.
2) A camera. You never know when you’re going to need one. If you’re going to carry your camera around, though, make sure you have a nice camera bag for it. I, again, chose a Poketo camera bag (it has owls on it!)
3) A wide variety of pens and one pencil.
4) A bottle of Cherry Blossom lotion from Bath and Body Works.
5) Nina Ricci perfume
6) Tampons.

7) Those really cute little bottles of Tylenol and Advil.
8) Bobby pins and some rubber bands.
9) Some spree and suckers.
10) 9 different kinds of lip gloss/balm. Is that a bit over the top? Sure. But it’s just how I do.
11) Mints.
12) A small bag that I put whatever makeup I’m wearing that day in for quick touchups. Currently: Hard Candy Sheer Envy primer, NP palette, eyeliner and mascara.
13) A mix cd and letter from my BFF, Pauline!
14) A nail file/ clippers.
15) My cell phone and a pair of white earbuds.
16) A spring loaded weighted baton. You know, in case, someone ever tries to attack me.
17) Various receipts that have somehow managed to escape my wallet.
18) A USB shaped like an orange lego.
19) A pair of gloves so that my little fingers don’t freeze off.
20) An extremely cute hat that has ear flaps. Seriously, I’m not one for those kind of hats usually, but this was knitted one and I had to have it.
21) A bottle of Yankee Candle Hand Sanitizer in apple.
Now, you may ask, what is Pauline lugging around?
1) Phone.
2) Wallet.
3) Perfume.
4) Random monetary notes
5) Change

6) At least two lighters that I could never find when I smoked and now I don’t, I pull them out every time.
7) Two kinds of mints
8) A pack of gum
9) Receipts.
10) At least two sets of keys.
11) Hand lotion
12) Gloves
13) Germ-X
14) Deck of cards for impromptu card games with strangers.
15) A phone charger
16) Tampons.
17) And when it starts to snow, I’ll be throwing a hat in there, too!
Ok, cluttered. Both of us, I know, but we’re female and that excuse enough. But what do you really need in your bag?
First, let’s start with the bag. It needs to be cute. It needs to compliment you. Have you ever seen those little tiny girls lugging around HUGE bags? Kind of silly looking, right? Or what about the Big Girl with the itty bitty purse? Looks like she stole her little sisters bag, right? You try on your clothes, so you should also try on your bag. That’s how it works.
Now, cut through your crap. What do you really need? What are your bare essentials? It’s hard, I know, I tried it. I dumped my bag out and decided that I would put in what I absolutely needed.
The wallet went back in, of course, but then I took it back out because there were things in my wallet that I really didn’t need. The receipts could be filed away, so those were the first to go. (Random insert: It’s getting to be that season again. I hope all of you feel generous in any way possible. Publix has a great Food For Sharing program going on and you can buy a bundle starting at right under $6. When you donate, save your receipts and you can write it off on your taxes!) One of the print cards was from two years ago and hadn’t seen any action in a loooong time,. Trash. Everything else I needed to keep. Ok. Wallet back in bag.
The gloves, hat, and hand sanitizer went back in next. It is that season. A pack of mints, two pens, Tylenol, and perfume. Lotion, too. The baton, just in case.
There. Bare essentials. That’s all I needed in my purse.

And then I panicked and put everything I had originally had in my bag back in it. Plus a scarf.
Good grief.
Can you do it, though? Are you stronger willed than I?
Even if the answer is no, I still hope you have a fabulous bag to put all your things and the kitchen sink in.
And remember, “I’m beautiful, I’m beautiful, I’M BEAUTIFUL, DAMN IT!”
Xoxox

Anda.
 
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Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Halloween

I was having lunch with a friend earlier today and we were discussing out Halloween costumes. At one point in the conversation, he looks at me and says, “I just hope I’m not going overboard.”
My first reaction was to be horrified. Halloween is the perfect time to go overboard and let loose. Wear a wig, create a new persona, be who you want to be. That’s why Halloween is my favorite holiday (that and the fact that Halloween is indeed my birthday. I’ll be 21 and, yes, I will be accepting birthday wishes all week!) But then I decided that there are provisions to the whole concept of letting loose, especially for us Big Girls. A friend of a friend decided she was going as a “slut” for Halloween. Her costume consisted of a bustier, thong, and fishnets. I kindly asked her where she was going to store her fat for the night. Harsh, true, but she ultimately decided not to wear the “costume” and picked something different.
So, here’s a guideline for Halloween costumes.
1) Some things are ok to wear on Halloween. Take this as an example: I hate shiny leggings. Hate them. But for Halloween, I’ll wear them because nothing says Rocky Horror “Sweet Transvestite” quite like shiny leggings. Not matching is totally acceptable on Halloween, too.
2) But don’t think that Halloween gives you a free pass to let it all hang out. Because while it may be something you don’t wear everyday, giving your friends/coworkers an eyeful of what you have going on underneath your clothes is not something you can magically erase.
3) Just because Lady GaGa wore it, doesn’t mean you should. Please refrain from covering yourself with slabs of meat.
4) Ironic costumes are a no-no. I never really understood the point of a big girl/guy wearing a cow/sumo/fat ballerina costume. Story time: I was at work the other day and we do, unfortunately, have the fat ballerina costume. If you’ve never seen this costume atrocity, let me describe it for you: it’s made out of this plasticy material. Flesh colored arms and legs, pink leotard, gold tutu. You fill it up with air. Get the picture? Ok, back to the story. This girl (big but not fabulous) comes in with all her little skinny friends and she BUYS THIS COSTUME. Guess what? It’s sad, not ironic, if you don’t need the air pump to fill out the costume.
5) Wear make-up. And lots of it. If you’re one of the ones who never wears make-up, then Halloween should be your time to do so. I love it. Pink/red/lime green eyeshadow and lots of it. Bright red/black/purple/grey lipstick and lots of it. Fake tattoos and fake eyelashes. Wigs! Wear a wig! All of it’s good and fun and you should enjoy it!
So, whether you decide to be a monster or a witch or a punk rocker, make sure that you’re having fun with it, that you look rad as can be and that above all you won’t be embarrassed when people post pictures of you on face book.
Happy Haunting, my dears.
And, as always, “I’m beautiful, I’m beautiful, I’M BEAUTIFUL, DAMN IT!”
Xoxox

Anda
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Thursday, October 14, 2010

We LOVE To Shop!

It's true. Big Girls love to shop just as much as anyone else.
This is a list of all the places that Anda and I love to shop at.

1. I absolutely adore Lane Bryant. I go there for jeans, leggins, shirts, bras, panties and everything else in between. Plus they carry Seven apparel, and they recently started carrying DKNY.
http://www.lanebryant.com/

2. Avenue. You can usually find something good in this store. Anda likes their skinny jeans, leggins, and panties. Plus they have amazing sales!
http://www.avenue,com/

3. Torrid. They have some really really cute clothes here. It is more geared to the younger generations, and isn't so big on career wear.
http://www.torrid.com/

4. Old Navy. I love Old Navy. They go up to a XXL in stores, but they have sizes 16-30 online, and they offer free shipping. They have some really cute stuff, and it's affordable!
http://www.oldnavy.com/

5. Target. Anda and I both love love love Target. They have a pretty good selection of plus size clothes to choose from. Just be careful when you go in and look, because even though they have some good stuff, they also have some very bad stuff, that no one should be wearing. They also have awesome bags and scarves. Great for accessory shopping!
http://www.target.com/

6. I love Burlington Coat Factory too. You have to look to find something perfect, but when you find it it is pure bliss!

7. Ross. Anda loves Ross for bags. They have awesome deals on bags, and really cute ones too.

8. Hot Topic. If you like music and you want everyone else to know it, go pick up some band shirts from here. They also have really awesome accessories, and bags too.
http://www.hottopic.com/

9. Walgreens/Local drug store. You can pick up all of your everyday needs from these stores. Its convenient and easier than going to a huge store to pick up everyday essentials.

10. Ulta. I love make up stores. Plain and simple. I would live in Ulta if I could. They have every kind of make up that you could imagine, plus fragrances, and a hair salon. And they have an awesome rewards program!
http://www.ulta.com/

As professional Big Girls, we have figured out what places have the best fashions for us. When you shop at these places they don't disappoint! We love them, and we hope that you will too!

xox- Pauline

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Tuesday, October 12, 2010

Own Your Style

The purpose of our entire blog is to guide. While I hope that you follow our guide, I also hope that you own your own style. Not everything that we write about (fashion-wise) will work for you or you just may not feel comfortable wearing it (I have a friend who refuses to wear leggings).


Take this as an example: I’ve always thought that certain shades of navy (yes… there are different shades!) and black work well together. Most people will tell you that they clash, though, so I’ve always avoided wearing the two together. Until last week. Last week, I picked up an older edition of O Magazine, and Oprah’s Creative Director Adam told me that he thought thinking navy and black went together meant I had a real sense of style. Ok, he wasn’t talking to me directly, but those were his words. I still shudder at the thought of black and brown together, but now I feel free to wear my cute navy top with some cute black leggings. (I would like to say that I think black on top and navy on bottom looks awkward.)

Speaking of leggings, my dears, I think we should set a few ground rules. Especially since it’s fall (YAY!) and fall is definitely my favorite time of year to wear leggings.

1) Just say no to… spandex. Your leggings should NOT be made of spandex. Try suede or denim or cloth or nylon, anything but spandex.

2) No thick leggings. Hello! Leggings give shape. Why would you want to wear thick leggings that add bulk?

3) Do not treat your leggings as pants because they are not pants.

4) Longer tops work with leggings. Longer tops cover your butt, hips, and tummy.

5) Proper footwear. Flats, low heels, boots, and yes, even a pair of converse (I’m going to be that punk rock kid until I die) work well with leggings. Know what doesn’t? High heels. Can we say trailer trash? Thought so. Olivia Newton John is the only person who could ever pull this look off.

Now, I have to tell you about my MUST HAVE item for October. SCARVES! I love scarves. Why? Let me count the reasons. They pull an outfit together, they keep your neck warm, they add color to a dreary outfit, they cover hickeys, double chins, and anything else you might want to camouflage.

Pauline’s MUST HAVE item for October is the ever warm and comfortable and stylish fleece jacket!

What about those days that aren’t so cold? Try a nice light sweater. This past spring Avenue was having a HUGE sale on winter apparel. I’m not usually one to buy three seasons in advance, but I saw this completely cute sweater (think long, light beige, very versatile) with an even cuter price ($11 marked down from $45!). The best part? I can wear my tank tops underneath because I’m not quite ready to give them up just yet.

Another fall favorite? A blazer. Not your father’s blazer, mind you, but a woman’s fitted blazer.

I love hoodies as well, just make sure it’s the right kind of hoodie. Don’t go for the thick, boyish looking ones. I’m a fan of the t-shirt material hoodies because they’re light, come in a great array of colors and add little to no bulk.

So, here’s your guide.

Mix it up. (My blazer has My Chemical Romance patches on it.)

Own your style.

Remember, “I’m beautiful, I’m beautiful, I’M BEAUTIFUL, DAMN IT!”

Xoxox,
Anda
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Thursday, October 7, 2010

Must Have IT!

Must Have IT!




If you’re anything like me, you have a problem with impulse buying. I know I do, especially when it comes to new skin/hair/nail/makeup products. My bathroom cabinets (and a few storage bins in my room) are full of products I bought on impulse, used a couple times, deemed them crap, and put in a box for “later inspection”. Sound familiar? I’ve compiled a list of things that I firmly believe you must-have (and Pauline made one, too!) I’m not saying that you should never buy any other items because there is always room to try new things, but these should always be in your cabinet and should always be your backup plan when the new items turn out to be complete garbage.



Anda’s List of Must-Haves



Skin Care

1) Anything from Neutrogena. Seriously. I’m a huge fan of their “rapid action” products. I’ve used all sorts of products and none of them ever worked for me until I started using Neutrogena. (on a side note, if your face is naturally oily… you don’t need a moisturizer!)



2) Everyone needs, AT A MINIMUM, two different kinds of lotion. One that locks in moisture after a shower and at night before you go to bed, and one that smells nice for during the day use. Since I’m a tattoo freak, I’m a huge fan Aveeno. It’s fragrance free, so it is especially good if you have sensitive skin. For the other lotion, try something from Bath and Body Works (I really love their summer collection of coconut based lotions). Don’t want to spend a lot? Suave has just come out with a line of lotions comparable to the Bath and Body Works line.



3) Bikini Zone shave gel. Use it EVERYWHERE you shave. Underarms, legs, wherever, wherever. Soaps dry out your skin when you’re shaving. Bikini Zone contains no soap and it aloe based. Result? Smoother, less irritated legs.



4) Bio Oil. It works on stretch marks, scars, uneven skin and dark circles. In a clinical study, 90% saw improved skin. I’m using it myself on some scars, and it really works!



5) A good moisturizer. Pick your brand. Look at the ingredients! If you have acne prone skin, avoid anything that is oil or petroleum based.



HAIR



1) Neutrogena makes a great once a week anti-residue shampoo (no, this does not mean you only have to wash your hair once a week!) that removes hair product build-up. I usually wash my hair with it on Sunday so that my hair is a clean palette for the week.



2) A good shampoo/conditioner. Again, pick your brand. Don’t be afraid to mix it up either! I personally like Herbal Essence’s Tousle Me Softly shampoo and Coconut Milk conditioner. Here’s my spill on why you shouldn’t buy overly expensive shampoo: HELLO! You’re washing it out of your hair! Save your money for good hair product.



3) Such as Frederic Fekkai’s Glossing Crème. It’s made with olive oil and makes your hair ridiculously soft and sleek.



4) A solid hairbrush. You’d be surprised what the right hairbrush can do for you.



5) If you plan to put your hair up in any kind of ponytail make sure you’re using the right kind of hair bands. Scunci has this pretty amazing line of hair bands that are metal-free and no-pull. They’re made of soft silicone and is really great if you have a sensitive scalp.



6) Dry shampoo. Why? Because if you’re like me, sometimes you overdo it with the Fekkai Crème and have no time to shower again. If you have dark hair make sure the spray says that it’s INVISIBLE or you’re going to end up with white powder all over your gorgeous locks.



7) A cute headband. I always feel like I’m channeling Blair from Gossip Girl when I slip on a headband, and that is not a bad thing!



BEAUTY



This one is tricky because not everyone likes make-up and not everyone looks good in make-up. But here’s a tip for those of you who do wear make-up: Less can be beautiful. I really can not stomach the sight of women who appear to be wearing half a bottle of foundation. You don’t need that much! If your skin is so bad that you feel you need to cake on foundation, then you actually don’t need it. Instead you need to focus on letting your skin breathe and heal. Foundation will clog pores. Another tip? Wash your make-up off EVERY night before bed. I know, especially with girls around my age that after a night of going out you really just want to pass out. It only takes a few seconds to wash your face. Plus, no one looks good when they wake up with raccoon eyes.



If you wear make-up:

1) A good foundation/ eyeshadow primer. This creates a barrier between your skin and the gunk you’re putting on it. I admit that I don’t use a foundation primer because I’m a loose powder kind of girl because I can’t abide by a heavy feeling foundation. Pauline suggests Smashbox for your primer and the Lorac brand for both your actual foundation and eyeshadow primer. I’d also like to point out that a lot of common brands are making primers. L’Oreal (whom I love love love) has come out with a line of “Hollywood Secrets” and their primers are pretty awesome.



2) A solid eyeliner. No one looks good with overly smudged eyeliner. Get an eyeliner that defines AND STAYS. Pauline’s pick- Urban Decay. Anda’s pick- I’m a huge fan of Cover Girl’s new Eyelight collection.



3) Fabulous mascara. Don’t buy the cheap stuff, trust me. The cheap stuff damages your eyelashes. I’m having a love affair with L’Oreal’s Collagen Boost mascara. Try it. Love it.



4) Cotton swabs/ baby wipes. Cotton swaps fix little make-up mishaps. Baby wipes take away make-up. It doesn’t get any easier than that.



IF YOU DON’T WEAR MAKE-UP



A good lip balm. If you want to go for something with a splash of color, try Nivea’s line of lip balm.



Also, just a little side note… WEAR PERFUME! Seriously. Even a light body spray goes a long way.



And wear deodorant. I mean it.



So, I know you want to ask us questions. I know you do! Send us questions, comments, random life rants! We want to hear from you! Prtali@yahoo.com



Remember, “I’m beautiful, I’m beautiful, I’M BEAUTIFUL DAMN IT.”

Xoxox

Anda

Thursday, September 30, 2010

Your Boyfriend Is An Accesory

This blog is going to deal with your greatest, and sometimes most troublesome, accessory. Your boyfriend.

I hope all of you out there are either happily single or have found a man that makes you happy and treats you like the fabulous big girl you are.

You know what makes me mad? When I see a beautiful, stylish, fabulous girl with a guy who looks like he A) has been playing in the mud, B) is pretty sure Zest is something you use to spice up the chicken, or C) feels that he’s with a big girl so he doesn’t have to try to look good because she’ll stay with no matter what. (Sadly, C is pretty much a reality when dealing with a girl who has no self-esteem.) Think of your boyfriend as a staple in your wardrobe of life- he should compliment your changes and personality and should look good while doing it.

The problem? Some guys are resistant to change and some of you ladies are lazy. I know it takes a lot to mold a guy, trust me I do. But that’s where it gets fun. Think of your man as a vintage bag. Someone else has owned him at one point, they might have even messed him up, and now it’s your turn to wipe the dirt away and buff out all the scuff marks.

I like to think of my boyfriend as a pair of Christian Louboutin’s that another girl left out in the rain. When we first met, I knew he’d be a lot of work. He was tall and lean, had great hair and teeth, and knew that he could melt a girl with his smile. Problem? His clothes. His last girlfriend had been some freak show who thought that boys only looked good in those god-awful Tripp pants and black t-shirts. I like to think that he was young and impressionable (she was older than him) rather than he actually liked those stupid pants. Honest to God, the pants almost ruined everything. Silly, but true. I did give him a chance and it turned out to be one of the best things I ever did.

But those pants had to go.

I didn’t charge in and throw out his whole wardrobe, and you shouldn’t try to do it either. Men hate change, it’s a fact. Do as I did and gradually introduce new things to him. The first thing I bought him was a few pairs of jeans, regular fit and skinny. Then we started going shopping together. At first, he hated going anywhere that wasn’t Hot Topic, but I finally got him to go into a few different stores. It took me a week to convince him to wear a V-neck, but when he finally did, he realized how ridiculous a V-neck looks with those horrible Tripp pants and he started wearing the skinny jeans. Once you get your guy out of his comfort zone, BACK OFF. Too much, too soon will propel him back into his ugly habits. After a few months, he realized how much he loved the skinny jeans and the V-necks and slim fit tees. Once he was comfortable with that, I added to his wardrobe. A cute vest, some nice button downs, etc.

Now, why did I go to all this trouble? Because he is my vintage bag, my Louboutin’s, my arm candy.

I'm not saying that you can't love your man and all his flaws because you can. But wouldn't you tell your best friend if she was looking a hot mess? Yeah, I thought so. It's the same principle.

Your boyfriend is your accessory, ladies. Do not let him go into public smelling or looking a hot mess. Because no one wants to see your honey at his worst.

Remember, “I’m beautiful, I’m beautiful, I’M BEAUTIFUL, DAMN IT!”
Xoxox
Anda

Tuesday, September 21, 2010

Acceptance

Being big in a thin-centric world is hard. It's not impossible though.
I am nearly 100% positive that all of us have been at the butt end of jokes and other ridicule due to our weight. Especially in grade school. But now that we are grown up, how do we deal with it?

How do we deal with an unruly classmate in college or a jerk at the office?
It isn't the easiest thing to deal with, but it is a fact that Big Girls (and guys too) get teased. And I am going to try and give you some ideas about how to deal with it. And how to do it without throwing a punch or going to jail.

All kinds of people pick on us. And they can be broken down into three different categories. The skinny bitch, the average joe, and the ugly.


First the reason why the skinny bitch takes swipes at us. They can be male or female. But they are pretty much all the same. The reason they say ugly things about our weight is that they are mad at us. They hate us because we can look good at our size. And it especially pisses them off when we have a man hanging off of us and they don't.

Second is the average joe. They can also be male or female. I usually have found that this is a small percentage compared to the other two categories. But these people tease because of their own attitude. They might have had a bad day or week or they are going through something that has them down and they want to drag you down with them so that they don't feel that they are alone on the bottom. Basically they want a "pick me up", and to them we are the perfect target.

Last is the ugly. Now don't give me grief for saying what I am about to say, because I know we have all been through it. But physically ugly people love to tease us Big Girls. And when I say ugly, I mean when they fell out of the ugly tree, every single branch hit them on the way down. And they tease us about our weight because people teased them about their physical attributes, or lack there of. It is a vicious cycle.

And as for being ugly, all three types of these people are ugly. If not on the outside then on the inside. And if it at all makes you feel any better about it, we may be fat, but they will always be ugly. Not even the greatest plastic surgeon can fix what's on the inside. Ever.


To deal with these people, depending on where you were, I would either 1. just walk away. Defuse the situation by leaving. If you do this, it takes away the power of what they said to you. This works well if you are in a situation where you do not have to deal with the person(s) on a daily basis or very much at all.
Or 2. Confront them. Get on your big fat soap box and tell em that yes, I am a Big Girl, and yes I am just as attractive as skinny Sally in accounting, or the girl in the cowboy hat standing at the bar. Beauty is as beauty does. So I'm not your cup of tea with heavy cream? Don't look, dickhead.

When people start in on you, they do it because of their own self image and self esteem issues. Don't let their words drag you through the mud. You are not a mat and you are not to be walked all over. You are worth far too much for that.

And I know that just because you are confident, it doesn't mean that the words don't hurt.
I would journal about it, or talk to your friends about it. Get a therapist if you need to. The whole "suffer in silence" thing isn't worth the emotional damage that you may suffer from in the end.
Talk about it with people and it will take a huge weight off your shoulders.

And always remember: Hold your head up. Be confident, plus confidence is a very sexy thing. You are beautiful. Live your life on your terms, and don't let all of the jerks in this world mess with your head.

Don't be afraid, Big Girls!
You run this world.

Xoxo- Pauline

Friday, September 10, 2010

When Skinny Jeans Attack!

While I was walking to class the other, I saw a girl who looked like her jeans were attacking here. Seriously. They appeared to be cutting into her thighs and hips, and I think they may have been trying to strangle her calves.

Here’s the deal, ladies. There is a difference between “skinny jeans” and “strangle jeans”. When you’re a big girl, skinny jeans are something you MUST approach carefully. Not all big girls can rock the fitted jeans, and if you can’t, then don’t wear them.

Signs that your skinny jeans are too skinny:
1) If they give you a muffin top.
2) If you lose any type of feeling and/or circulation.
3) If you can’t bend your knees.
4) If the material makes any of your jiggle bulge.

Seriously, though, I can’t imagine wearing anything that would make me uncomfortable. Fashion doesn’t have to be painful (we leave that to the skinny bitches).

Also, I feel compelled to add that they make jeans to fit every sort of girl out there. (Pauline did a blog on body types. If you missed it, go read it.) Lane Bryant and Avenue both sell an array of jeans that fit your body type and are reasonably affordable. Several times a year both stores have sales on jeans. Why am I saying this? Because I can not STAND the sight of big girls in cloth shorts and sweat pants. Honestly, I can’t stand the sight of ANY woman in sweat pants in public. I especially hate when bigger girls try to copy that ugly fad skinny bitches seem to love (wearing ironically large sweat pants when they are a size 0). That doesn’t work for us, girls. It just makes us look larger. ESPECIALLY when you wear the sweat pants that have the elastic at the bottom that hugs your ankle. If you must wear sweat pants (and I really wish you wouldn’t), then choose the type that is open ended at the bottom. (the Starter brand offers a line of these).

I admit, I occasionally wear sweat pants. At home. Where no one can see me except for my dogs. Never in public, though.

Another thing you should never wear in public? Cloth shorts. Cloth shorts are made for sleepy time and nothing else. They make me ill for two reasons. 1) They never stay in place. At some point that are going to ride up and you are either going to have to pull them down (ick) or just walk around with what I like to call an “all around wedgie (use your imagination). 2) A person who wears cloth shorts are usually wearing a t-shirt, probably a dirty t-shirt, and therefore they do not looked pulled together.

That’s the whole point of this blog, right? To look better, too feel better, and too deal with life’s big girl haters. You don’t feel good? Don’t feel like dressing up? You’d be surprised how good a messy (think surfer chic) ponytail, fitted jeans, and a nice t-shirt or hoodie looks. And that is low maintenance.

So, here’s the spill: Wear jeans, not sweat pants/cloth shorts. Don’t wear strangle jeans.

And as always, remember: “I’m beautiful, I’m beautiful, I’M BEAUTIFUL, DAMN IT!”
Xoxox
Anda

What's Under Your Clothes?

Girls, here we are again with another important topic: bras and panties.

I am going to start with bras because finding the right fit with your bras can make a world of difference in how you look and feel.

You will want to re-measure every 3 to 6 months, especially if you weight fluctuates frequently or if your bras are “rubbing you the wrong way”. If more of your boob is falling out of your cup than what actually fits inside, it is defiantly time to get measured again.

Properly measuring yourself for your bra size is essential.
I will explain how to do this as well. But always remember that you can go and get professionally measured at no charge.

Now, when you measure yourself what you are going to do is

1. Measure around the fullest part of your bust (bust measurement) . This includes measuring over your nipple. Do not pull the tape tightly across your ta-tas. This is what is going to determine the correct cup size, and if you pull it too tightly you will end up with a smaller cup size than you really need.

2. Measure directly underneath your breasts. This measurement needs to be flush to your skin because this is your band size, and you do not want this to be too large.
Now when you have finished doing those two measurements, you are going to subtract the two numbers and use the chart below to figure out your cup size.

Ex: 46-42= 4, therefore the cup size would be a D and the band size would be a 42.

2 inches= B cup 6 inches= DDD cup
3 inches= C cup 7 inches= F cup
4 inches= D cup 8 inches= G cup
5 inches= DD cup 9 inches= H cup

If you feel like you haven’t measured yourself right, then go to a professional. I know for a fact that most Lane Bryant stores and Victoria’s Secret stores will measure you.

When you measure you may be surprised to find out how big your chest really is. Many women, even the skinny ones (well some of them, at least) have no idea what their size really is. When you wear out your current bra stash, measure yourself (which should be every 3 to 6 months). It doesn’t hurt to recheck it.

Once you know your bra size, things get easier and you can move on to panties (Thanks again Carrie)!

Pantie shopping is one of my most favorite pastimes. And even being a Big Girl myself, when I am with my significant other, I love to show them off. I love being in a pair of sexy panties. It makes you feel feminine and hot when you have on something lacy, or a racy thong.

Even if you don’t have someone to look at you in your panties it is still fun to stand in front of the mirror in your bra and panties and flaunt your stuff. And I highly suggest that you do this. It’s a great self-esteem booster, and I do it every single day. Remember to love yourself! Plus panties are fun. All kinds of designs and colors, and the things that these designers are coming up with are amazing. Whether you feel like wearing girl shorts, things, briefs or bikinis, there is something out there for you.
There is no need for granny panties anymore Girls! Even if you are a granny!

I am one hot, sexy bitch, you are one hot, sexy bitch, so show that stuff off! Flaunt it like you own the place!

As always, we welcome any questions or comment. Leave them here or email us at prtali@yahoo.com

Have fun Big Girls!

Xoxo Pauline

Wednesday, September 1, 2010

Color!

We are going to dive right into the rainbow today, Girls!

Personally, I love color. And I know a lot of Big Girls out there are afraid of color.
And I'm going to tell you this right now, it doesn't make any sense to blend in!

Ever since I have embraced myself and my size I have been liberated from the black, white and gray wardrobe of my younger years.

And I am set out to liberate you too!

Color is an amazing thing. It shows off your personality, your individuality, and it shows that you are a person who is going to go out and been seen, and not sit back in the background unnoticed.

Every color is important. Remember "roygbiv" from grade school? You need these colors in your closet.

Now you do have some rules for color, though.
They are simple common sense though.

Rule 1- Black and brown does not go together! Ever!
It just doesn't work.

Rule 2- If you wear a colorrful top, don't wear colorful pants with it.
If you wear an all red outfit, 9 times out of 10 people will think you are a walking advertisement for tomatoes. This goes for any outfit. I remember one Halloween I took my niece and nephew trick-or-treating and I dressed up like a raver, in all orange. All night people thought I was a pumpkin. It is a good thing to break up the color.

Rule 3- You can still wear black!
Wearing black is not a no-no. You can add color to your outfit with accessories.
Belts, earrings, necklaces, bracelets, and of course a fabulous handbag.
Also, I find that wearing a simple colorful jacket, can make a neutral outfit shine.

Rule 4- When you are matching shoe color, use the color of your top, not your pants.
By having your shoes match your top, it ties everything together. You have no loose ends and you look completed. If you don't have a corresponding shoe to your top color try to find a coordinating color. And if all else fails, black shoes go with everything. Yes, black shoes!

Rule 5- Consider your skin tone
Some colors look better on different skin tones. Try on some colors and see how they look with your skin tone. If it washes out your skin, put it back and try something else. There are colors out there for everyone. The sky is the limit.

Rule 6- Use your imagination!
Some people are scared of color, I know. It can be a scary thing when you are used to wearing very neutral colors all the time. But when you decide to spice up your wardrobe, think outside the box. Try some colors you never thought about wearing. They may look awesome on you.




Don't be afraid of color Big Girls! Don't stand in the shadows anymore. Tell the world who you are, and show it off!! Be proud of who you are, claim it, and work it.
And as always, try it on before you buy it. Color is a good thing but if you hate the particular color then try something else.
If you need help, contact us!
prtali@yahoo.com. We welcome and questions or comments that you have!

Color everything Girls!
-Pauline

Tuesday, August 24, 2010

OMG (not an Usher Remix)

I had to post this. HAD TO. Why? Because I'm at school (yay! for higher education) and I've had all I can take of seeing it.

What's it?

Fat girls in small shorts. Ok, and I'll admit, I don't like seeing skinny girls in tiny shorts either. Please, leave something to the imagination.

I know, I know. You're thinking, "WHAT IS THE ISSUE?"

Cellulite. That's the issue. Big girls have cellulite, skinny girls have cellulite. It's all disgusting, no matter who's body it's on. What's worse is that it's summer. So, we're not talking about normal, pale, jiggly cellulite. We're talking about jiggly, looks-like-you've-been-rolled-in-Doritos-orange cellulite. AND I CAN NOT HANDLE IT! The sight makes me gag. Here's a hint? If you look down and see puckered orange (or pale) flesh, you need more material. Put on some capris, damn it. Board shorts. Anything. Leave the Daisy Dukes to Daisy Duke. On anyone else they're just Daisy Don'ts.

ALSO. Yes, I'm on a warpath today. Why is it that some big girls want to squeeze into tiny spaces? Are you not aware of your girth? (next blog I post will be about body acceptance... and those who deny.) Seriously. I always sit somewhere that I have room and those around me have room. If you're blocking the ENTIRE aisle with your width, it's going to get nasty. This girl in my philosophy class (not a big girl, but a fat bitch who not only wore Daisy Don'ts with her orange jiggly AND proceeded to do the fat girl waddle) decided she was going to squeeze into the smallest row and sit at the very end. Outcome? She knocked this poor boy in the head with her belly, stepped on my purse (oh yeah, I was angry), got stuck, hit another girl with her bag, got stuck, sat down, breathed heavily, and then decided she needed a drink. Repeat.

Ok, that's my rant. Advice and point? No Daisy Don'ts. No orange cellulite. No sitting in tight spaces. No fat girl waddling. NO STEPPING ON MY PURSE!

But remember, "I'm beautiful, I'm beautiful, I'M BEAUTIFUL DAMN IT!"

xoxox
Anda

Friday, August 13, 2010

Family Part One

Blog- Part 1

Family. Both a blessing and a headache. That’s why my spill on The Big Girl’s Code to Family will be split into parts.

I don’t know about you, but my family is crazy. Some of us are just normal crazy, but others are certifiable (we’re all pointing fingers at you, L. We took a vote). Mostly, though, I love my family (excluding the ones I don’t ever claim).

There are the ones I don’t ever claim, though. I don’t know if you’re lucky enough to have a nice family, but some members of my extended clan seem to like to point out that I’m “tipping the scale”. Really? Hadn’t noticed, never looked in a mirror, thought I was a size four, you jackass.

One of my cousins always liked to make fun of my weight because I’ve always been a fabulous big girl. He went a little past teasing and liked to, you know, bend my fingers back and throw my shoes on top of the house, etc, etc. For the longest time I couldn’t understand why he was so mean to me.

Then, my Mom, in all her brilliance, told me something that to this day I still live by. “He’s jealous because you can lose your weight, but he’s going to be ugly forever.” Amen.

Here’s my spill and my advice: just because they’re family doesn’t mean that you have to put up with their crap. Seriously. Treat them like you would any other big girl hater. Actually, because they’re family, you can tell them off more than you would that random stranger. Dish back their criticism.

“Hey, tubby.”

“Hey, how’s those herpes doing?”

Dish it back because they’re family and you know stuff on them! It’s perfect. Never, ever be afraid to stick up for yourself. No matter who it is.

Remember: “I’m beautiful, I’m beautiful, I’M BEAUTIFUL, DAMNIT!”

Xoxo
Anda

The Fat Girl Walk

Girls. girls, girls! I was walking around Target yesterday and to my dismay every Big Girl I saw was waddling. I cringe every time I have to say that word. And yes, I call it the "Fat Girl" walk because Big Girls don't waddle. You are not a Weeble, therefore you should not wobble.

It's easy to re-teach yourself to walk correctly. There are a few simple rules to follow that will teach you how to not walk like a penguin. There is but one exception to this rule, and it is when you are walking on ice.

Now for the rules.

Rule #1- Keep your feet pointed straight.
If you throw your feet to the sides, kind of like making a "v" with your feet, you will always waddle. When you point your feet straight forward, it not only makes you walk right, but also helps to improve your posture. It is a lot easier to stand straight up when you walk right.

Rule #2- Move your hips!
God gave us hips, so use em'!!
Most women (both big and small) walk trying no to use their hips. This is a huge mistake. moving your hips when you walk is one of the most feminine things you can do.
Now, by moving your hips, obviously you create movement. Which is exactly what you want to do. When you walk and your hips move, it gives your form shape as well.
It doesn't have to be an earth shattering "bam, bam" hip movement. It can be subtle. But what you want to achieve is an up and down movement of your hips, and not a side to side movement ( Which would be, what girls? Waddling).

Rule #3- Pay Attention
When you are re-teaching yourself to walk right, paying attention to how you move is essential to your success. It is so easy to fall back into the pattern of waddling, because for many of us we have done it for years and years. There is a repetition rule that I have heard before, and it says: Do it 28 times, and it will become a habit. Practice walking when you are in your house, or walking through the park, or just doing grocery shopping. And always pay attention.


Now those three simple rules will stop the Fat Girl Waddle. We want to walk like Big Girls, and not Fat Girls. Go get em' girls, and don't forget to practice!
And just so you know, I did change how I walked, years ago. So I know that if I can do it so can you!

Have fun Big Girls!
- Pauline

Friday, August 6, 2010

Body Shape and Fitted Clothes

Hey girls! Today we are going to tackle body shapes! And what shapes look best in fitted clothes.
All of us Big Girls have body shapes. We aren't just blobs!! We all have shape and curve. I have found this blog that describes each body shape pretty well, so please visit this blog: The Plus Size Body: What Shape Are You?. This blog will help you figure out what shape you are, and if you have any questions, email us! Our email is prtali@yahoo.com, and we would be glad to help you out!

Now that you have figured out your body shape, we are going to get into some fitted clothes!

I will be the first one to stand up and say that I LOVE my curves. And I am not afraid to show them off. Wearing fitted pants and shirts are amazing when you want to show off a bit. Once you know how to do it, you will look awesome showing off your curves!

The first shape is a diamond shape. With this shape, wearing a fitted shirt may or may not be the best. The reason behind this is because the majority of the weight on your body is focused around the middle, and there is no defined waist. The key with fitted shirts is having a defined waist to kind of "break up" the body. There is goo news though! Most diamonds have great legs. This is great for wearing those skinny jeans or leggins!! If you have great legs, show them off!

Next is an oval or "apple" shape. This shape is a bit tricky, because some Big Girls with this shape have a defined waist and some do not. However, if you do wear fitted shirts, make sure that they cover your midriff completely. Bellies bulging out of shirts should be banned from your wardrobe. Permanently. With this shape, fitted pants will look good on you. There are rules though. The pants have to fit around your hips or waist without creating unwanted bulges (aka muffin tops). Watch out for this especially with jeans.

For the triangle shape (aka pear shape) Big Girls out there, you are in luck.
I know that some girls hate having big hips and big butts. But for me, even though I am not this shape, I have both. And I love them! So with that said, the triangle shape looks pretty good in fitted clothes. Shirts work because there is a clearly defined waist, and for the most part triangle Girls have great legs so fitted jeans and leggins look great too. But be cautious to the length of your shirts though. You don't want them riding up on you when they shouldn't be!

The inverted triangle is the exact opposite of the triangle (as the name implies). This shape is top heavy, which usually means being busty and then getting narrower on the way down. With this shape, since for the most part your bust is the biggest part of your body, fitted shirts can be a little too revealing for some. If you are a triangle, use your own discretion. They do make fitted shirts that keep "the girls" covered. Keep that in mind! Now as for fitted pants, I tend to say no for this shape because, as the name implies, it will make you look very narrow from your shoulders down if you wear tight pants. Like an exclamation point without the dot. Even skinny girls want to create the look of curves. So by wearing skinny jeans or the equivalent it is doing nothing for your curves.

Next is the rectangle. Fitted pants can work well with this shape. If you have good looking legs, work em' Girl! Since there is no defined waist a fitted shirt wouldn't be my first choice. There are other options to show off your curves if you are a rectangle. And we will get to those in future blogs. I promise. So for now steer away from fitted shirts. But a big bonus is the skinny jeans!

Last, but not least, is the hourglass shape. Now I admit to being a hourglass shape, so i might come off as partial, but I look at this shape just like any other. Big Girls need to know how to dress for their shape, no matter what shape it may be.
So For Girls with this shape fitted tops and bottoms work well with this shape. This is because you are proportional and there is a clearly defined waist. Fitted clothes on this shape really accentuate how shapely this shape is.

That's it for all of the body shapes and how to work some fitted clothes into your wardrobe!
Now some of you may be worried that you have fat arms (I have them, too!), or that you have a tummy is too big, or that your butt and/or hips are too big for some skinny jeans. If that is the case go back to Anda's blog about confidence. You have to own your body. Every single curve of it.

When you truly love yourself and your body, you are free.

Get hoppin' Big Girls!

--Pauline
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Tuesday, July 27, 2010

Attitude

Ok Big Girls. I am going to tell you about how I feel about being used.



I am sure that at least have been in a situation where you have been involved with a man that was already in a relationship with someone else.


And I am going to go on and say this, go ahead and do it, but the majority of the time you are just going to be used.



I was in a position like this before. Where he just wanted some down and dirty before he went home to his girlfriend.

I was young of course, but now that I look back at it I realize what a slumlord this guy was, and probably still is.



And I bring this up because he had a skinny girlfriend. And he made sure that I saw them together at the place where I was working then.

What a jerk, right?


And that is why I am telling you this!



Along with your self confidence, you also have to have the right attitude about yourself (The two are different).


When that guy picked me up I exuded self confidence. I was workin' what I had.
But my attitude wasn't there. I was so absorbed in someone liking me that I went along with it.


The attitude you show other people will either give you a pass or fail grade.



Don't let people walk all over you, and don't be so overbearing that no one likes you.

You have to find the happy medium, so that you can be with someone (or even find friends) that truly likes you for you.


Being the second woman is not fun. Especially if all it is, is that you will do something that their girlfriend won't do.


We have to embrace who we are. Yes, we may be bigger than your average girl. Yes, we are still beautiful. And yes, we deserve someone who loves us for us.



Don't let anyone take advantage of you.

You deserve better than those scumbags who take advantage.


As to quote MCR "Give em' hell kid".



Always, Pauline

Sunday, July 25, 2010

Confidence

One of my favorite quotes from Charlie and Chocolate Factory (the Johnny Depp version... mmmm) is: "Well, you do seem confident. And confidence is key." I love that line simply because it's so true.

It doesn't matter how expensive or cheap your clothes are if you don't have confidence, then you're going to be overlooked. While fashion and presenting yourself properly to the world is important, it won't matter if you walk hunched over like the world is about to kick your butt all the time. I like to call this the "duck and cover" walk. Dodging the insults before they're even hurled at you.

I get it, Big Girls, really I do. Our society tells us that we have to be a size negative 654 to be beautiful. That we have to disappear when we walk behind poles to be desirable. Well, i'm here to let you know that society is seriously messed up. Because, as Motormouth Maybelle says on Hairspray (the Zac Efron version... mmm) "Who wants the twig when you can have the whole tree?" That's how I've always felt. I've never understood what was so beautiful about having your bones visible through your skin. Or what was so amazing about weighing 90 pounds.

Confidence isn't easy, not for everyone. And that's why this blog is so hard for me to write. Because I've always had confidence. I've never once looked in the mirror and thought I looked horrible. Even on those days when my skin is acting a fool and my hair has decided it wants to be a 'fro, I just look at myself and say "Damn, girl. Looking good." Because that's what you have to do. Have you ever seen supermodels without their makeup? Playboy girls without their airbrushing? It's not pretty because NO ONE looks good all the time. But even on those days when you feel (and maybe look) like hell, you just have to tell yourself that you're fierce. Crazy hair? Hey, it's in. Breakout? Slap some concealer on. It's not about just looking good, it's about feeling good as well.

Another thing that I'd like to point out is that you should never have to settle for less than what you want. I know too many girls who will settle for any man that comes along. Why? Because society tells us that Big Girls aren't going to get too many offers in life and we should take what we get. Well, you know what? I REFUSE. I'm only attracted to tall, skinny men and, honey, you better believe that's all I'll date. There's nothing wrong with the larger man, it's just not my thing. And don't ever let anyone tell you that if you set your standards high that you'll be alone all your life because that's a big lie. Why would you settle for less than what you deserve? All that's going to get you is a miserable life and some ugly oaf in your bed. And trust me, you don't want that.

I don't know how to make you confident. I don't know what you like about yourself. But find that thing inside you and LOVE it.

Say this everyday (and this is my ALL TIME favorite quote thanks to Bette Midler). "I'm beautiful, I'm beautiful, I'm beautiful DAMN IT!"

Because you really are.

Strike a pose,
Anda

The Essentials

Anda and I have compiled a detailed list of the basic essentials that every Big Girl has to know. Follow the basics and you are on your way to looking good.

1. If it is too small, give it to charity
- Here are the telltale signs that it is too small:
If you have the window blind effect, which is you pull it down and it comes back up. Most of the time revealing skin that shouldn't be shown.
If your fat roll(s) hang out anywhere.
If it cuts off circulation to anything.
Now let me explain. There is a difference between tight fitting clothes, and clothes that are too small. Tight fitting clothes can work on Big Girls if you have the right body type (more on that in later blogs), but clothes that are too small look terrible on any body type. Basically, leave the skin exposure in the bedroom. Please.
2. Black doesn't always make you look thinner.
There are only two reasons that you should wear an entirely black outfit: either your goth to the extreme or you are going to (God forbid) a funeral.
When you wear black as part of an outfit, you should off set it with another color. And since black goes with any color, except brown, your possibilities are endless.
For a lot of people black pants are a staple, but if you wear those then color it up with anything. Use a color that compliments your skin tone or that goes along with your attitude at the moment. Wearing all black is depressing. When you spice up your wardrobe with color it makes things a lot more exciting when you walk into your closet.
3. Short shorts are a no-no.
This should be common sense for Big Girls.
Short shorts don't work for Big Girls for these reasons:
-We have thighs, and for the majority of us they are not perfectly smooth and toned.
-We got a lot of jiggle. And short shorts don't help the cause at all.
-Cottage cheese should only be seen in the dairy section of your supermarket, not on the way to the dairy section.
Now with that said, shorts are not all bad. When it gets hot I don my shorts nearly every day. But I suggest going with a longer short, such as the Bermuda short which hits just above the knee or at the knee. You could go with a slightly shorter short, say that hits about 3 or 4 inches above the knee, but I would not suggest going any shorter than that.
And remember, when it looks like your not wearing shorts when you have them on, they are TOO SMALL.
4.Muffin tops are not attractive.
To be honest, the only place where muffin tops are acceptable are in that one episode of Seinfeld. On a person, muffin tops are not sexy. When you have a muffin top it means that your pants are too small, and all of the excess fat and skin is being pushed over the top of your pants. It creates a "bad curve". A curve that you don't have to have. And I will be the first to admit that I love my curves, but when you have one of those ugly muffin tops, it does help the cause.
If these are a problem of yours, go up a size in your pants (I know it sucks but honestly you will look so much better when the MF is gone.). And when you buy a new pair of pants TRY THEM ON!
5. Just because your skinny friends can wear it doesn't mean you can.
Remember this when you go shopping.
Ok, so we all have skinny friends, or sisters, or cousins, or co-workers who can wear anything. Big Girls I am here to tell you that we cannot. Halter tops are one of my biggest pet peeves on Big Girls. Just because they come in our sizes doesn't mean that we should wear them, or that it will look good and flatter our bodies. We are who we are. We have curves. If you want to wear what the skinny bitches wear, then you have to be the size that they are. Dress appropriately for your body. You will look better, and you will feel better.
6. If you have a wide foot, buy a wide width shoe.
Shoes can make or break an outfit. When you have a fat roll on your foot because you squeezed your foot into a shoe that is too small it looks Terrible. With a capital "T". It is not good for your foot. It can cause foot problems and back problems. When you buy a properly fitting shoe it makes a world of difference. Wide foot=a wide width shoe. Your feet and back will thank you oh so much.
If you have problems finding a wide width shoe, go online! I suggest zappos.com.
7.Leather pants don't even look good on rock stars!
Ok look, we only liked it when the rock stars wore it because they were famous. Anything that will nearly chafed you instantly is a bad, bad, bad idea. They don't look good. Don't wear them. That is enough said on that subject.
8. Oversized t-shirts and pants don't make you look thin.
Wearing clothes that are too big is silly! Big t-shirts should be reserved for sleeping. It does not make you look thin because you are swimming in your shirt. It makes you look like a clown. Now for the baggy pants. Wearing big pants makes you look bigger. It is also dangerous. You could trip and fall on the excess material. Plain and simple, wearing clothes that fit make you look good.
9. Leggins and skinny jeans.
Leggins and skinny jeans are reserved for those of us who have nice legs. Nice legs are defined as shapely, not one size throughout your leg. If you have tree trunks for legs, skinny jeans and leggins are not advised. Use discretion when wearing these kinds of pants. If they do not look good on you, don't follow the trend and wear them. Flatter your body. If your legs are not one of the best features then don't draw attention to them.
10. Not all prints are created equal.
Prints are a tricky subject. Some are good some are not. And it is sometimes very hard to find one that flatters your body. The main rule to follow is is to not have the print be overbearing. The print cannot be too small or too large . Make sure that you try on whatever print that you like. If it is too small it will make you look huge, if it is too large it will make you look unproportionate. A print can look amazing, you just have to find the right one that makes you look good.
Those are the basic 10 essentials to clothing. But Anda and I have decided that we need to address a few more issues in this first official Big Girl Code blog.
We are moving onto hygiene.
1. Bathing.
Some people have a certain smell about them. B.O. is worse than bad breath. A mint can cure bad breath. But bad body odor is a harder challenge to tackle for some people.
Get some good body wash, and a pouffe. Washing everywhere is also a must. Every nook and cranny.
2. Facial hair on women.
Facial hair is a pain in the ass for every woman. As 21st century women, we have to do it. Get out of the caveman days and pluck and wax your face, girls! Once you get into a routine it's not hard to stick to. Plus, pain releases endorphins into the blood stream. You'll feel better after you get waxed!
3. Hair color.
If you decide to dye your hair some color other than your natural color, you must do the upkeep on it! Dying your hair is a commitment, if you want it to look good. Trust me, I had red hair for 8 years, and I dyed it every single month, professionally. It is not something that you can let go of. Especially if you go with a much lighter color than your natural color. Light hair and dark roots do not mix. Like oil and water, they will never go together.
There you go Big Girls. The very basic essentials.
More to come soon!!
xoxox-Pauline

Saturday, July 24, 2010

An Introduction- part deux.

First off, I'd like to easy any aggravation by saying that, "No, i'm not some skinny bitch picking on the girls who grace the larger side of life." I not only grace the larger side of life, I run the whole damn party. Get it? I've always been big, I'll probably always be big, and I'll never EVER be ashamed of who I am. I'm big, tattooed, opinionated, and, I'll be honest, a little bitchy.

And I can not stand to see some fat bitch in clothes that don't fit. God may have given you those extra pounds, but damn girl, that doesn't mean he wanted you to share that view with the world. I work retail and there is a woman who comes in, and God bless her, we get to see ALL of her. Hide that stomach, cover up that cellulite, TAKE A BATH. I'm sick and tired of these girls giving all of us a bad name. Guess what? I'm thick, stylish, and clean.

I'm not saying that big girls should hide out. Hell no, do your thing, girls! Just make sure you look good while doing it. That's where I, along with my best friend Pauline, come in. Don't look a hot mess, ladies. Don't know how? We'll teach you. We won't lead you wrong, promise.

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An Introduction

Hello all you Big Girls, this is Pauline and I am here to say that some of the stuff that Big Girls wear is just not enough. Literally. I have been all over the country and I have seen millions of Big Girls wearing cut off shirt and daisy dukes. And trust me on this one, you are not sticking it to all the skinny bitches out there who wear the same exact thing. The thing is girls, is that when you go out into public with your belly hanging out and it looks like your not even wearing shorts because they are so short, that makes every Big Girl look bad. And to be completely honest nobody likes that (unless they have a fetish, in which case that can be done within the privacy of your own home). My Best friend Anda and I are two Big Girls and when we go out there is nothing that would make people's heads turn for a bad reason. And when you wear clothes that don't fit you, or are overly tight and skin shows that's not suppose to be showing people will look. But trust me, they won't be ogling your body for a good reason. If you want to be seen as a Big Girl and not a fat bitch (not that there is anything wrong with being a bitch) read our blog. If you don't know how to dress for your size- we can help! You can be a Big Girl and still look amazing. Anda and I do it every day. We have set out to give the Big Girl community a good name, but we need your help too.
You can be fat and fabulous...and we'll show you how.
xoxox-Pauline